How Leaders Can Learn From Regret

By Melissa Calvert

Updated Over a Week Ago

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Have you ever led a project in your company, a club at college, or an activity at school?

If the answer is yes, think for a second and remember if you have any regrets.

People often regret that they didn’t do things better. You might be wishing you could get that time back to change things. You would have led differently so the results could have been different.

But you should probably stop thinking like that. For that moment, you did what you could do.

If you think you could have done better, then remember it for next time. Don’t hold onto the past. Learn from it and move forward.

A true leader never holds onto past regrets. Instead, they take a step ahead and keep moving.

How I Learned From My Regret

Last year, when I was working with Crowd Writer as a marketing team leads, we had a task for achieving a particular number of orders.

To bring in healthy competition, a similar task was assigned to my colleague lead, Jennifer.

I have a straightforward nature, and Jenny is a diplomatic girl. My team lost in the end, and I felt upset for a while. My close friend Jacobs suggested I think about my mistakes. That night I didn’t sleep. I was thinking all night about what I did incorrectly. I had many regrets. So I told Jacobs about it.

I didn’t manage my team properly. I should have asked for more from them. But I tried to do things on my own. Jacobs told me that good leaders always take care of their team. They have the responsibility of keeping things in check.

I understood Jacobs. But it took me some time to modify my way of thinking and leading. I eventually coped well and successfully managed the next project.

Personal Development Approach to Overcome Regrets

In my case, my friend Jacobs helped m overcome my regrets and negative thinking. There are a lot more ways to overcome such depression.

A good leader always has certain leadership characteristics. So let’s discuss some of them.

Accepting Your Failure

It’s okay to make mistakes. They’re a part of life. Don’t run away from them. A leader doesn’t blame others for their own issues. You should have enough courage to face up to them.


Once you have accepted your mistake, you need to learn to say sorry. If you have done wrong to yourself, apologize to yourself. If you have hurt someone else, apologize to them.

Saying sorry to your team will not make you inferior. On the contrary, people who admit their faults and apologize are superior because they realize what they did wrong and want to make amends for it.

If you think your team has lost out due to your performance, gather them around and hug them, apologize, and commit to the future.

Learn to Feel Free

No one can live with regrets. Once you have realized and accepted your mistake and apologized for it, you need to forgive yourself.

A leader needs a calm and relaxed mind so they can make plans and execute them accordingly. A brain with lots of regrets and tired thinking cannot work for the betterment of themselves or others.

If you think it is difficult to get yourself out of past happenings, just take a break. Go on a holiday for a week, enjoy your moments, and bring back your life through travel.

Look Forward

The biggest disadvantage of living in the past is you lose your future as well. Many lives are attached to a leader. You cannot risk so many careers. When you have taken responsibility, you must fulfill it.

To cope with your duties correctly, make sure not to overthink the past. Learn to let go and move on.

Learn From It

Letting the past go is not forgetting about your mistakes entirely. This is what differentiates those who are leaders and those who aren’t. Ordinary people like me don’t take previous experience as an opportunity to learn. But a leader needs to learn from mistakes. They do not misstep again.

This is the phase where you can criticize yourself. But make sure not to engage in negative and self-destructive thoughts.

Be Thankful

Say thanks for your mistakes, which were there for you. These mistakes are your best friend who has taught you how to be better and move ahead in life. This will help you become a great leader in the future.

The Whole Story

Being a good leader is not a simple task. That’s why leaders are often multitasking. Regrets are a part of life. But living with them is the wrong choice. Think about what you need to do next.

Good leaders learn from the past, live in the present, and work for the future.

How Can Leaders Deal With Regret?

If you have ideas you feel like sharing that might be helpful to readers, share them in the comments section below. Thanks!

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Melissa Calvert
Melissa Calvert
Melissa Calvert is known in her community due to her social work. She often organizes blood donation camps for the needy ones. Melissa is a socially active girl who is currently associated with KingEssay as a Social Science Analyst. She owns a website
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